Tweeden Tools

In the old days, when people were more apt to read more than the few words that will fit over the top of a picture they are attracted to, I would have dissected my thoughts, reorganized, and reflected, and then I would have carefully selected the perfect words to adequately express my opinion. These days, I splatter my thoughts in tweets and comments on posts that others have made, and they end up spread all over the place, some without any acknowledgment that anyone has read them.

In case you need a picture, or want one to attach to your articles about me being a slutty slut shamer, I'll provide this. It's the closest thing I have of myself looking slutty, taken during my modeling days.


I collected some of my comments regarding the Tweeden scandal and, more importantly, danger of the 'women always get an automatic benefit' movement and present them here. Eventually, I might come back to this and do the reorganizing and adding that this deserves. For now . . .

I am not going to remain silent while it plays out. I am going to shame every person who is jeopardizing everything that matters because they cannot or won’t bother to think before jumping into traps. If they were the only ones who’d be hurt, maybe. But people can die as a result of their need to jump on every fucking bandwagon even when it’s senseless. They can ignore me, criticize me, block me . . . but if they have consciences, they’ll realize eventually that they were wrong.

Logical assumption: any Trump supporter or Republican pretending she wants sympathy for being abused by a man is full of shit. Things have to make sense and supporting the party that does everything humanly possible to harm women in every way possible, to maintain complete control over every aspect of female lives including our bodies, and protects admitted sexual abusers does not make sense. STOP being tools.

I know that even the greatest guys can do some wrong things, and that everyone will be accused of doing wrong eventually whether or not it’s true. And the worst people will do a few good things along the way, even if by accident or for wrong reasons. Before destroying or redeeming lives, people should step back and look at the full picture. Making a joke that might be considered in poor taste doesn’t- or shouldn’t- destroy a lifetime of being a decent, caring, good person. We are such a sick society when people can be manipulated into destroying good people because a bad group of people are trying to make themselves look less guilty.

I say start with what you know, always. And what we know is that Franken has been a good man, working his ass off for years to protect people while she is an opportunist Republican, who supports the party that does everything possible to destroy women and protect their admitted sexual predator and accused child rapist. I have no problem with anyone posing nude, dancing on poles, screwing everything that walks, prostituting, writing porn . . . but I do have a problem with liars, tools, and people who do those things and then go out and try to SHAME/DESTROY other people who they say were living the same and that hurt their tender sensibilities. Because that doesn’t make sense and demands investigation into the intentions of the duplicitous accuser. One of these two has credibility and believability (Franken) and the other doesn’t and the consequences of letting her slide on this are enormously dangerous to our world.

Men seem to think they must defend sluts instead of allowing them to choose to be sluts if they want.

I think one of the big elephants in the room is very obvious, and I say this with some personal experience influencing my perspective. It appears there are women with untreated PTSD who are unwilling or unable to resist wanting to throw all men under the bus, without any real reason to believe they’ve done anything to deserve it. There is a faction of ‘the woman is always right’ (made up of both males and females). And they are furious FURIOUS with anyone who refuses to participate in throwing men there. It seems to me that they have projected their real or perceived mistreatment from men onto all men. I went immediately for help - got the diagnosis, and recovered. I am sad to think there are so many untreated but the #metoo (think that’s what it was called) campaign is evidence this is very likely real.

Remember guys, you, too can be set up by a GOP tool. And when it happens, I hope the same flock of knee-jerk reactionaries declare that the woman is always right no matter how upstanding you have been and how not she has been. Because, you know, gender matters more than truth, context, laws, critical thinking, and proof.

Perception is everything. That might be the take away lesson in this. I'm actually learning more toward (waaaayyyy toward) her being a lying GOP tool, though.

What Franken did wasn't a misdemeanor. Not legally and I say not ethically, either, in the context of comedy and USO.

You are welcome. I have no reason to not believe you. Actually, I'm taking heat for trying to protect men. I am a humanist first - gender doesn't matter to me but right and wrong does. I'm not as much like my father as you might be. I'm crude by many people's standards, I enjoy flirting - with people and with danger and shock - so, I am also trying to protect humor in all its forms (different tastes for different people). Most of all, I hope to protect honesty. And I don't see a whole lot of that in this story.

I believe Joe, because my father was that kind of man. However, I also know that doesn't mean no one would try to make a deal out of nothing.

I'm not stretching anything. If you have never done any of that, you are unusual (in a good way). These are the sorts of things that people do every day, and that some people who play along are later willing to destroy someone over.

Absolutely. And I'm losing respect for everyone who isn't actively standing up against the tools who are helping GOP.

He admitted to being sorry she was hurt by HER PERSPECTIVE and added a bunch of language to calm the fears of women who might be projecting hatred/guilt onto all men because they are suffering PTSD.

For comic relief: 

I apologize to all of the people who have lied about me, too, because I truly am sorry they are such ignorant and deplorable people. Seriously. No one should have to live with knowing that they are ignorant and deplorable people so if making up weird stuff about me (maybe something like saying they know I wrote that article praising me myowndamnedself because they didn't want to believe someone else actually wrote it) is the only way they can feel good about themselves, I'm honestly sorry for them. I really don't know what I was thinking when I said it really makes no sense to stand by something that I know and she couldn't possibly know since she wasn't me. I'm okay with with just saying so sorry and not explaining myself over something so ridiculous.

I also apologize to everyone who thinks it is wise to try and destroy me in order to protect people who will destroy everyone else. I can't imagine the self-loathing that must come with such poor character so I'm sorry I'm here to remind them of what they could be, if they had been born sorta normal.I think it's time for everyone to apologize to idiots. Feels kinda good.

IF he is proved to be guilty, I will say I was wrong. But I will never say I was wrong to consider him innocent - since everything about him leads to that as a jump off opinion - until proven guilty.

I have been the victim of real abuse. Because I am sane and rational, I know not to project my attacker's guilt onto to every other man. I think the correct and healthy response to people who display symptoms of PTSD by projecting or reliving old injuries is to encourage them to seek professional help. PTSD is treatable.

And, all they had to do was bait knee-jerk, reactionary tools on the left to kill three birds with one stone for them: silence/damage Franken's accurate opposition to their kill more people bill disguised as tax reform and loaded with vile pork, take the heat off Moore, and make Democrats just as bad as Republicans in the eyes of idiots. I am beyond furious with people who refuse to think.

His brilliant wording in the apology covered him from every angle without admitting he did anything. The weight of his apology rests exactly where it belongs - on HER perception.

Exactly, Robyn. I refuse to participate in this dangerous, unwise, PC on steroids mess of turning on a man with a history of doing good and fighting for everyone without any investigation of the accusations made at what is obviously a plotted, opportunistic time.

Anybody else wonder why she said nothing when he ran for office but decided, now, when her GOP is in trouble over Moore and is trying to ram through a deplorable tax scam bill that he has spoken intelligently against, she brings up this ridiculous claim? And, better yet, why knee-jerk, reactionary tools are helping her hurt a good man and help GOP?

Meanwhile, reactionaries have helped GOP hurt a good man, made it possible for him to be expelled from the Senate if they oust their child molester, and wasted a day that should have been spent on their hateful, harmful, slimy, dishonest pretense of a tax reform bill that has enough dangerous pork to kill many.

There’s a huge difference between a man accused by multiple victims and a person accusing multiple men. My gut reaction is to wait for the whole story on one and to lean toward probably on the other but not to blame either side on anything that is new and up in the air, especially when it’s as off-the-wall stinky as this Franken crap.

I must live in a different world than everyone else. I have known women who believe every man they’ve ever met abused them somehow and were willing to hang the ones they hadn’t met because they were convinced that every man alive was a horrible person. Not just a few, either.

I'm sad that men are being put in this position. No, you do NOT have to defend women who make choices to do things that are indefensible, just because they are women. Nor do I have to do that just because I am a woman. Principles should always come first.

I fear that the people who are pressuring everyone to say that women are always right, and that a woman is always better than a man or falling into another huge GOP trap. They will run females against every strong Democrat in office and, sadly, the knee-jerk reactionaries who don't want to rock the boat or take a real stand for fear of being criticized will go along with it.

 

Do you get yet, that part of my battle right now is with them? It's not making me popular but I totally reject the idea that all women are honest and all men are dogs. I have been fortunate in that most of the men I have known intimately (not in a sexual way) have been good men. I would consider many of them great men - the kind that many women don't believe exist. This reality is high on my gratitude list and I realize it comes from having a great father, who surrounded himself with good people and taught me to recognize and attract great people. I was born privileged. I recognize that and try to pay it back to the world. My goal is not to hurt women, it is to protect innocent men from what I believe is a terrible precedent. I don't think my goal should mean to anyone that I do not see that women have been oppressed in many ways, and I will fight to correct those injustices. I just don't think that assuming all women are honest is the way to go about that.

I agree on your principle and point. A prostitute can be raped and her rapist should be prosecuted. But if she decides after taking the money and doing the dirty that she only gave him permission to touch her left breast and he touched them both, so she’s going to twist that around and call it rape, I am not going to pretend that man is the problem.

The problem is that you think he did something to her. I can accuse you of assaulting me right now because I am unhappy with what you are saying.

Or, if we happened to be in the same room and someone introduced you, my automatic reaction would be to hug you. I hug everyone, always have. If I hugged everyone in the room, including you, and then screamed later that you touched me without my permission and I had been stewing over it for years, would you want people lumping you in with rapists and pedophiles? That’s what is happening, and it is harmful to all men and women and children. It’s especially unfair to real victims of real assault and that’s part of her purpose - to protect Trump from the 16 accusers.

The people who accuse us of slut shaming are the ones calling her a slut for choosing the professions we’re sharing. I have no problem with her being naked or sexually assaulting men. I am hypocrite shaming, liar shaming, Republican tool shaming.